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I was watching an old Def Comedy Jam DVD the other day, and one of the female comediennes was discussing single life. She said it seemed that after been single for a while, your standards start to slip, and, rather than looking for Mr.Right with all his perfect credentials, you begin to settle, instead looking for Mr.Right now, or Mr.At least.

Now I must hasten to add that she wasn't saying there was anything wrong with Mr. At Least.  However, I must admit I did think: "why does it have to be standards slipping if you're looking for him?"

I have always said that I don't want the guy in my life to be perfect. I don't expect him to be, since who amongst us is? I have standards, which means there are certain things which I won't tolerate or put up with. But that's the same as with anything. 

I don't recall having any illusions about relationships when I was younger.  I didn't long for a knight in shining armour, or that movie love where people run across beaches, climb mountains and present roses in the rain. All of that seemed too fussy. I want a more settled regular/normal love- the kind my Grandparents had; loyal, meaningful and accepting. 

I think if your standards are too high, you potentially risk passing up the Mr.Right... that is Mr.RightForYou. He also goes by Mr.At Least. 

Mr.Perfect may be driving his fancy car, Mr. At Least may be riding the bus, but, at least he may be saving for a car.  We don't know the circumstances behind people's choices, maybe we shouldn't be so quick to judge?

I'm keeping my eye out for Mr.At Least... seems like only he can go the distance.

Onyx Knight