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Welcome back to the new section in the Chronicles of an Urbanite- Dear Onyx. Here we feature letters from the readers of Chronicles. 

I am not Dr. Phil, nor am I an Agony Aunt. What I am is a lady with an opinion. And,if you ask me for mine, I can be be obliged to provide it. As we all have experiences with relationships, the lessons we learnt can sometimes be used to offer assistance to others.

Dear Onyx,

I don’t trust my man. I’m certain he’s cheating, but I have no way to prove it. I feel like these days he’s a different person, distant and seems to be pulling away from me. He leaves the room when he answers his phone, things like that. He has become increasingly unreliable and is less considerate of my feelings.

I love my man, but I don’t know what I will do if he is cheating!

Please help.

Sara from London

Sara, 

There appears to be a few issues here. Firstly, it appears there are changes in your relationship which aren't favourable to you. Secondly, it seems that your trust in your man is wavering. These two things are not mutually exclusive, but they are issues which can escalate the situation.

The major issue here is the matter of trust. If you no longer trust your boyfriend, I struggle to see how your relationship can continue to exist healthily. This is where you need to consider, quite seriously, your course of action. If you don't have any hard proof your boyfriend is cheating, yet you still are suspicious of his actions, you either need to confront him and risk being proved wrong, or confront him and risk being proved right; possibly losing your boyfriend on both accounts.

You cannot condone being treated badly, through cheating or neglect, however the decisions you make need careful risk assessment. The fact you care about his actions